For many, Christmas is one of the happiest times of the year, but if you find yourself suddenly single or alone at Christmas, then you might be wondering how you are going to cope with being alone for the holidays. Well the first step is recognizing that no one else is responsible for making your days merry and bright, except you. You’ve got to decide right now that you are going to enjoy the Christmas season, regardless of whether you are alone or not. When you really think about it, what’s the alternative? To sit home depressed and moping ruminating on how bad you have it. I think not! There are many things that are far worse than being alone for Christmas, just ask somebody who is homeless and hungry or who is lying in a .........

Ladies…Has this ever happened to you? You are happily living your life doing things to become a better you and keep your life in forward motion when out of the blue you get a call or text from your ex who is trying to see if there’s any opening to get back in. Now this is not just any old ex but an ex who messed up big time by either: cheating, lying just for the thrill of it, going back to an ex who he constantly complained about but led you to believe that it was over or did something else so incredibly hurtful and stupid that he left you no choice but to fire his ass…walking papers and all.

And for some crazy reason the phone call or text always starts off with something along the lines of, “I don’t mean ...

There’s a song by rapper Ludacris titled “Stand Up” in which there’s a verse that goes, “When I move you move just like that.” Even though the song has some sexual overtones, the lesson that women can take from this song is: When it comes to dating, let your level of interest and effort match the guy’s. In other words, if a guy who you like is interested in you, let him know that you are interested too then let him take it from there, following his cues.  

With all the hype about all men being dogs and women not being able to find a good man, it’s easy to believe that if you don’t jump through hoops to show a guy enough interest, especially one you really like, he’ll quickly ...

Just about every woman at some point in her dating life has had a maintenance man or at least toyed with the idea of having one while in search of a good man to build a long term relationship with.

What is a maintenance man, you ask? A man who serves as your interim guy. A guy who you are sexually attracted to but who you also know you have absolutely no future with because he’s either: 1.) totally wrong for you, 2.) you’re not really that into him, or 3.) he is not ready for an exclusive relationship but has no qualms about hitting it on the regular as long as you play your position and never, ever press him for any type of commitment.

What’s wrong with a little maintenance while searching for a guy to build a long term...

Ever dated a guy who treated you like it was a privilege to be in his company? Seriously. The kind of guy who behaved as though you should click your heels three times and thank your lucky stars that out of all the women in the world he choose you.  The guy who goes on and on about himself, never asking you about your life, who feels like you’re supposed to jump through hopes to be with him while he makes little or no effort to be with you. Not only is he selfish, but he actually sees everyone in his life as a pawn to be used for his sole personal benefit rather than individuals with lives and goals of their own. If this sounds like the guy, you’re seeing there is a strong possibility that you are dating someone with what ...

As hard as it may be to accept there will be times in your life where the person who you like, love or care for decides for whatever reason that he or she does not want to be with you anymore. Whether they give you the “let’s be friends” speech, the “I think we need to take a break” line, the “I need to get myself together” talk, the “you’re too good for me” excuse, the “I’m not ready for a relationship after they hit it and grew tired of it or they simply cease all communication leaving you to conclude that that the two of you are no longer together anymore, there is one thing that you must do if you are to grow forward as a well-adjusted adult with self-respect and ...

Ladies….has this ever had this happen to you? You meet a guy you connect with. You hook up. Things seem to be going along smoothly. Then, all of a sudden out of the blue he changes up on you without warning or notice.

The calls come in less frequently or they’re totally replaced by text messages and pings that leave you wondering if he’s as into you as you’re into him. You go from seeing each other regularly to catch me when he can juggle you in. He says he’ll call when he gets a little downtime. He doesn’t. Instead he sends you a short text telling you that he is too tired to talk and will try to catch up with you tomorrow. Tomorrow comes and goes. So does the day after and the day after that. Still no...

 There are few things in life that take the wind out of our sails like losing your job and being left to wonder how you are going to make ends meet and enjoy the same quality of life that you are used to.

It’s not simply about the money. It’s also about identity, having a sense of belonging and the high feelings of self-esteem that come with feeling like “The Man” or “The Woman” who is able to hold it down.

For most people, what happens after the initial shock subsides is you start to worry, you become restless and stressed. You feel overwhelmed and over burdened…And if you are not mindful worry can easily turn into depression or feelings of never-ending doom and gloom. The problem with ...

The other day one of my coaching clients told me about a guy she’s seeing who rarely picks up the phone to call her or only calls her after 2:00am to see if he can stop by to have sex. She went on to say that she doesn’t like the fact that he’s never taken her out on a real date, he only calls sporadicly and when he does it’s always late at night. Not to mention that when she calls or texts him he doesn’t return her calls or texts. When she asked him why he doesn’t make more of an effort to initiate contact and spend time with her, he replied that he was very busy and forgetful. Let me say this: Guys may forget to take out the trash. A guy might forget what you were wearing when you first met. I’ll ...

The Holidays are a time for spreading love, laughter and good cheer. Thanksgiving for many marks the start of the holidays. It's a time where we reach out to old friends, family members who we haven't spoken to in a while and people we've lost touch with  over the years. However, while you are reminiscing and taking a trip down memory lane, the one person who you might want to think twice about calling is your ex, especially if it's been less than a year since you've parted ways. 

Why? Because the holidays can make you say and do things out of loneliness and wishful thinking that you might later on regret, especially if you said things that made you look desperate and incapable of moving on. And if you ...